This morning I forgot the sugar!
I went through the routine of making myself a cup of ginger tea but forgot to add the important ingredient that adds the sweet flavor that I like in my tea…sugar. No big deal really!
I’m absent-minded and many things are left undone or half-done when I’m elsewhere in my mind than where I should be. But what makes this particular thing a point of focus is that I had put someone in the dock and was sitting in judgment and criticizing, not constructively, but to let off some emotions that were festering within due to the person’s overbearing nature, bad attitude and arrogance.
Letting off steam is alright. I believe it’s necessary too, to talk about it and let it out as long as you are not stuck in one place and over-talking the issue to smithereens! However, putting someone in the dock and being the judge & jury all in one, pronouncing a judgment and then hanging name tags…unkind ones…around their necks is another issue altogether that has less to do with the person in the dock and more to do with you.
One has to release the pressure, but definitely not as soon as one’s feet hit the floor in the morning. I mean, I was shocked that I was (unconsciously) carrying malignant feelings about someone, somewhere, who did not influence my life in a major way or play even a minor role in my development and growth. And yet, here I was allowing negative emotions to give freeway to the person to steal my joy…take away the sweet enjoyment of my everyday life. In other words, I was focussing on the person and not the act. Now that’s a no-no where I’m concerned. To learn, I confine my thoughts to what (the act or the words) rather than who (person), as focussing on the person doesn’t benefit in any way. And this was highlighted by my own run-away emotions. My unbridled mind and a cup of unsweetened tea taught me a valuable lesson that day.
When you allow bitterness from resentment to poison your mind and heart, you forget the sugar. You lose your sweetness; in your nature, in your thoughts, in your actions and life in general. You lose your joy and peace. Like the ginger tea without sugar, my thoughts were sharp, pungent and not me. The ‘I’ or ‘what about me’ attitude had overpowered my heart and almost succeeded in poisoning my day.
Another lesson was re-enforced too: “Take it to the Lord in prayer.” By taking it to His throne, I was given insight. I saw how I could forget to add sugar when I concentrated on being offended. I had shifted to – resenting a person rather than learning a positive lesson from a negative action or attitude.
On a lighter note I also learned that when life throws you lemons, add a slice or two to your sweet tea, it makes a delectable blend of flavor!